5 Amazing Things You Could Buy Instead of Raising a Child

5 Amazing Things You Could Buy Instead of Raising a Child

Kids are expensive, like really expensive, but we all knew that, right?  Well, according to a still extremely relevant article over at Time Magazine, “cost of rearing a child has hit $233,610”, and that was back in 2015.  Apply a fair inflation factor to that huge sum, and now you’re certainly in the realm of a quarter of a million bucks, and that’s just for a single kid – the math is pretty simple if you want to start building out an even bigger family.  So what if you didn’t have a kid?  I mean, this is CFdating.com, so you knew we were going to go there – but really, what could that insane amount of money get you instead?  Let’s take a look – we may surprise you!

5. Buy a Beach House or Condo Instead of Having a Kid

Beach Weekend at your New Condo Instead of a Kid? Sign us up!

If the main photo on this article wasn’t a giveaway, a quarter of a million bucks saved by not having a kid can net you and your significant other a waterfront, or near-waterfront beach house or condo down in the Florida panhandle, the east coast, or just about anywhere else not named Southern California.  You may shrug this one off as not worthwhile, but keep in mind this could be in addition to your current home, so what would you rather have: a kid, or a beach house condo down on the beautiful white sands of Destin, Florida where you and your significant other can jet down to any weekend you feel like.  How awesome is that?

4. Buy a Boat – a Serious Boat – Instead of Having a Kid

Like the Water? Buy a Boat Instead of a Kid!

Boats are not cheap, but then again neither are kids that need schools, medicine, college educations, and oh so much more.  So why not splurge for a boat instead?  Whether you want a boat to take bass fishing on the lake or a sailboat to take out on Lake Michigan in the Chicago summer, you could drop that quarter of a million dollars on a ridiculous boat instead.  Which sounds better to you?

3. Go Get a Couple Master’s Degrees for Each of You

Go Get Masters Degrees Instead of Having Kids

Many pro-child folks will stress that kids are an investment, but there are some flaws in that argument as we all know.  But what if you invested that quarter of a mil in yourselves instead with a pair of master’s degrees?  Whereas that investment in a kid will only set you back financially, if you and your significant other go back to school to earn a bachelor’s, master’s, or even a doctorate, you’re only adding to your collective earning power as a couple.  Sure, advanced degrees aren’t cheap, but neither are kids, and only one investment will advance each of your careers.

2. Start your Own Charity Instead of Having a Child

Why Give Money Away to a Kid When You Could Start a Charity?

Here’s an idea I bet you hadn’t thought of: instead of having a kid, why not start your own charity and invest that quarter of a million dollars saved in kids who may need help?  Or, start a charity for one of the millions of other worthwhile causes out there; the bottom line is that your investment is going to not just something good, but to something great.  So if you don’t have the desire to take on your own charity or program, invest in a handful of others – you’ll feel great, and you’ll still have the time to pursue your other child-free interests.

1. Travel to Space Instead of Having a Child.  Seriously.

Travel to Space with Blue Origin Instead of Having a Kid
Photo Credit: Blue Origin

While this is honestly a bucket list for me, I guarantee you didn’t think of this as an alternative to spending all that money on a kid, but hear me out.  Just a few days ago Blue Origin – Amazon founder Jeff Bezos’ space company – announced that a consumer ticket to space in the coming years will cost in the $200k – $300k range.  Since you’re not having a kid, how insane would it be to travel to space instead?  I guarantee an Instagram pic from outer space will garner more likes than a photo of your kid eating Cheerios, and who outside of astronauts can say they’ve been to space?  This is a once and a lifetime opportunity, and to me its’ a no-brainer.

So as you can see, you have some flat-out amazing options to invest that quarter of a million bucks instead of having a kid.  While I’d probably splurge for a beach house or a ticket to space, whatever you choose is surely a better investment than a quarter of a million dollar child.

CFdating Web Dev Update

CFdating Web Dev Update

Since our covert launch a year or so ago, CFdating has gone from the new kid on the childfree dating block to a community that is really starting to pick up steam, and as the founder that is really exciting!  My wife and I started CFdating.com with the sole mission of creating an authentic community for those of us who choose to be child free, because as we all know we’ve seen too many of these CF dating sites pop up only to disappear a few months in.  Well, I’m proud to report that not only is our community growing rapidly, it’s also not going away – ever.  Now THAT is exciting!  So with that being said, let’s talk web development to highlight some of the site improvements we have here in the works.

Improved Matches & Search

While our user base here at CFdating is growing extremely well, in hindsight I should have structured the site’s core matching system to do a bit better job displaying national matches while the community falls into place.  We have some wonderful members out there in our community, and hearing from many of them they’ve mentioned that a great feature would be to include a more nationalized matching system – with of course retaining the ability to go hyper-local in their searches.  Duly noted!  Expect to see the new and improved matches system very soon, and thank you again to our awesome users who helped shape this change!

More New User Approval Checks

We take your security, privacy, and time very seriously here at CFdating, and the user approval system we’ve put in place back at launch has really done a great job in preventing a ton of lackluster, and potentially sketchy profiles from cluttering up your matches.  While I’m obviously not going to disclose the specifics of what we have in place, and what’s to come, just know that the profiles and matches you see and meet here at CFdating have gone through a very intensive approval process – one that I’m pretty proud of, and one that is continuing to evolve!

Improved Profiles Coming

As we continue on with the beta, we’ve received some great feedback as well as some frustrations on our profiles, user images, and the need for some new profile questions / fields.  First off, I’m working on getting a cool new feature included that allows users to rotate and manipulate profile pics that they upload; sometimes, when uploading a photo from a mobile device, the image uploaded is imported sideways.  This new feature should solve that, and it will also provide some other neat functionality as well to really improve profile pictures all around.  As I mentioned above, we’re also doing some bug fixing with profiles, and we’re also exploring getting more questions and answer fields plugged into the site to provide a bit more depth to the profile.  Look for these changes very soon!

Still 100% Free, and Still 100% Ad-Free

CFdating.com is still 100% free to create a profile, search for and message matches, and on top of that you will not see a single advertisement along the way.  How many other dating sites can say that?  We want to build a community for child free singles, and the best way to do that is to provide them with the best experience imaginable.  That’s our plan, and we’re sticking to it!

We will have lots more improvements along the way, and we’ll drop a new note here on the CFdating Blog when we have news to report.  I hope everyone’s Spring is off to a great start – enjoy CFdating.com, and we will talk to you soon!

69 Reasons Not To Have Children

1.) You’ll never have to drive a mini van.

2.) You’ll never have to spend your weekends trotting your kids to soccer/ballet practice & taking them to kids birthday parties. Your weekends are your own.

3.) You’ll never have to hear your kid say they hate you or wish you were dead after you’ve sacrificed your life for them.

4.) You can have sex anywhere in your house whenever you desire. No need to worry if the kids are home or awake. Wanna get it on at 3 pm on a Sunday on the dining room table. Go for it!

5.) Freedom

6.) Time

7.) Money

8.) Sleep. Need I say more

9.) Vaginal prolapse. If you don’t know what it is google it.

10.) You can buy a beautiful home & have it all to yourselves. No need to worry about little Susie or Tommy scratching up your walls &/or floor. No dirty fingerprints or food staining your furniture.

11.) Peace & quiet

12.) Alone time

13.) If you’re a woman you never have to worry about incontinence. After pregnancy & child birth woman can lose control of their bladder & bowels. Many times this is permanent & doesn’t go away on its own.

14.) Sex will never be painful because of childbirth. Sex to many woman is often painful many years after they’ve given birth.

15.) Spontaneous date nights

16.)Spontaneous everything

17.) Never have to pay for a babysitter just to go out & have some alone time with your significant other.

18.) Never have to worry about a babysitter canceling & ruining your plans.

19.) Overpopulation

20.) The last thing this planet needs is another human being depleting it of resources. Another human being competing for jobs, space on the roads, fellow human beings to date. You’re all on this dating site so you know how tough the dating market can be! Really, who wants to create another human being just so they suffer through the middle school years. I don’t know anyone who actually enjoyed that time of their life.

21.) Life is a crapshoot. There is no guarantee you’re going to have a healthy child. There are so many children with terminal illnesses that die at such a young age. Their short time on this earth was pure suffering. Talk about heartbreaking. No, I don’t want to take that chance. And, no I don’t want to give birth to someone just so they suffer.

22.) Autism. No thank you. Living with a child with severe autism would be my worst nightmare. I applaud the parents who do it because I could not. I couldn’t imaging my child destroying my home & violently hurting me. Of course all cases of autism are different. I’m talking about the severe cases with violent tendencies of which there are many. Even with a less severe case I still wouldn’t be able to handle it.

23.) No return policy. If you decide after you have a kid eh maybe this isn’t for me, well sorry you’re stuck for life. Just think if you don’t like your house you can sell it, spouse you can divorce, boyfriend/girlfriend you can break up, city you can move, job you can quit, kid uh well you’re stuck for at least 18 years. There are so many cases of parents regretting having children. Just google “regret having kids” & 4 million results pop up. Google “I hate being a mom” & 19.9 million results pop up. It’s better to regret not having kids than having kids.

24.) Working a full time job during the day &  instead of coming home & relaxing you have to cook dinner for the kids, clean up dinner, help with kids homework, break up arguments between siblings, have kids throw tantrums over their dinner you labored over, have kids whine & yell about not wanting to do their homework, give kids a bath, put kids to bed, dealing with the never ending argument of going to bed & constantly getting out of bed, having your baby cry all night yet have to be at work in the morning, or your toddler throwing up all night & having to be a work in the morning. Whereas if you’re child free your evening is your own to relax & unwind from your day’s work. You will be refreshed & recharged for the day ahead.

25.) Not wanting to pass on hereditary diseases.

26.)Naked cook offs with your partner.

27.) Naked anything with your partner.

28.) Want to take a last minute trip to Vegas, go for it!

29.) Doing whatever you want whenever you want.

30.) Not losing your identity

31.) Not having the highlight of your day being stuck in traffic on the way home. Sadly, there are many articles & comments on forums of how traffic is the best part of a parent’s day because it’s their only time alone. Traffic is the worst part of my day. I couldn’t imagine a life where it became a highlight.

32.) Not putting your child through the pain of losing a parent.

33.) Not having to listen to high pitched voices & squeals all day.

34.) Never having to deal with a colicky baby.

35.) Never having to change a diaper.

36.) Never having to travel with kids.

37.)Never having to navigate a bulky stroller through crowds.

38.) If you’re a woman your vagina will always be tight. If you’re a man you always get to have sex with a woman with a tight vagina. Win. Win.

39.) If you’re a woman you will never have to deal with morning sickness. Which actually lasts all day & for some women their whole pregnancy.

40.) If you’re a woman you will never have an alien growing inside your body, stealing all your nutrients, & constantly kicking your rib cage.

41.) If you’re a woman you will never have separated &/or broken ribs due to pregnancy. Pressure & kicking from the baby can cause this to happen.

42.) If you’re a woman you will never tear from your vagina to your anus during childbirth.

43.) Vacationing at child free resorts.

44.) Going on trips & vacations multiple times a year.

45.) Never having to pay for college tuition.

46.) Never having to decide if you should put your child in a subpar public school (because let’s face it public education in America is lacking in every way) or shelling out thousands per year for private school.

47.) Never having to pay for daycare or a nanny.

48.) Watching whatever movie or TV show you want when you want. You don’t have to censor what you watch because of kids.

49.) The constant worry & anxiety for the well being of your child is non existent for the childfree.

50.) Never having to spend time with people you don’t like just because your kids are friends.

51.) Never having to go to the multiple child birthday parties every weekend.

52.) Having adult & intellectually stimulating conversations each day. Not conversations that center around Susie’s pooping habits etc.

53.) Not having to constantly talk in a baby voice & dumbing yourself down to interact with babies/toddlers.

54.) This is the first time in the history of the world where women aren’t forced to have babies or looked down upon for not having them. Take advantage of it. We are so lucky to live in this time & this country.

55.) Never have to watch children’s television or movies. Talk about torture. No thank you.

56.) Having kids is no guarantee they will be there for you when you’re older. Have you ever been to a nursing home?

57.) You can be the fun aunt or uncle & be involved in your niece/nephews life. You won’t be stressed out or bogged down by your owns kids so you can have a really special bond.

58.) You will never have to yell or punish anyone. You won’t get tired of hearing your own voice by the end of the day.

59.) Privacy. You will always have privacy.

60.) You will lessen your carbon footprint & do far less harm to the environment than people who have children.

61.) You can eat your meals in peace. No having children constantly trying to eat food off your plate or having to nag them to eat their veggies. No having to get up because they need more milk or water or ketchup etc. Then your food’s cold. Ugh, no thanks.

62.) No constant cleaning up after kids. No cleaning their toys, their mess, their crumbs after every meal three times a day, their sticky hand prints, their never ending laundry……..

63.)You will never have to worry about your own child killing you. All the stories of this happening are alarming.

64.) You will never have to deal with the teenage years.

65.) You will never have to worry about raising your grandchildren because your child was too young when they got pregnant/got someone pregnant.

66.) You will have plenty of money for retirement due to not raising children. According to the Department of Agriculture, the estimated cost for raising one child from birth to age 17 is $233,610. That’s just for one child. Most people have two or more. That is also not including college costs! So imagine the savings you can have for retirement!

67.) You enjoy having a social life.

68.) You enjoy only having to wipe your own butt and not anyone else’s. Not having to deal with constant baby blowouts is priceless. Also, never having to potty train a toddler and dealing with toddler sized poops and constant accidents while they learn to use the bathroom. The horror.

69.) Will never have to go through the pain of losing your child.

Welcome to CFdating.com!

Welcome to CFdating.com!

The childfree segment of society – those who may love kids and children, but prefer not to have any themselves – has long deserved their own clean, functional, and modern online dating site.  A few have come before, but none have been serious in helping those who choose the childfree lifestyle to find love.  Well with the official launch of CFdating.com, we are proud and excited to become the premier childfree dating site in the world, and between human verifiable profiles and more functionality than you’ll find at every other childfree dating site on the Internet, we think this will be the last site you ever visit.

If you haven’t stopped by our front page, let’s take a quick tour on some of the features and benefits to creating a profile at CFdating.  First of all, we mentioned human verifiable profiles above, so let’s start there.  While anyone is able to create a profile at CFdating.com, you will not be able to send messages, add another childfree user to your favorites unless your profile gets approved by the CFdating.com staff.  Best of all, until your profile is approved you won’t even show up in other childfree user’s matches!  So why do we do this?  The answer is simple: raise your hand if you hate browsing online dating sites where half the matches are photo-less, answerless profiles – yep, our’s is in the air as well.  It’s time to change that, and build a childfree dating community that is serious about finding each and every one of you love; weeding out the not-serious is a stellar step one, and one that we are really excited about.

What about advertisements or cost?  Right now, and this will probably surprise you, CFdating.com has absolutely zero advertisements and is 100% free to use.  With private investments, and an actual staff behind the scenes that is building functionality, approving profiles, and growing the community with advertising, we truly are serious about becoming the #1 childfree dating site on earth, and if you’re not convinced after what we’ve told you thus far, it’s only going to get better.

We have tons more functionality, content, guides, and posts in the works here at CFdating, and we’re thrilled to have you on board.  If you haven’t already, click here to create a profile, and enjoy CFdating.com!